The 5 second rule
Let me tell you a story.
When I was 14, I went on a vacation to Turkey.
On the first day at the resort, I spotted a really cute boy. He was there with his parents and his brother, and he seemed very friendly and fun.
When I first saw him, I felt the urge to go and talk to him.
We both were around the same age, and we were sitting across each other at the pool.
3 days went by.
I still really, really, REALLY want to go up and talk to him. Ask him where he’s from. Ask if he wants to go play foot ball or something. Moreover, my vacation is coming to an end, so there really isn’t that much time.
Why haven’t I done it yet?
Well… you know…
What if he ignores me?
What if he doesn’t want to talk to me?
What if he thinks I’m weird?
Day 10. The last day.
Me and my mom are sitting by the pool, on our tanning beds, and I see him floating on an inflatable pool float.
I’m just sitting there, telling my mom how upset I am about the fact that I didn’t talk to him. That I’m scared.
I know the 5 second rule.
I know that 5 seconds is all it takes.
5 seconds of pure bravery.
5 second of courage.
Suddenly, I look at my mom and I say:
’Okay, that’s it, I have to do it. I gotta do it. I have to do it.’
She looks at me and says ‘Are you really going…….’ and before she can finish her sentence, I quickly stand up, run towards the pool, and jump in.
I swim towards him, and when I am directly in front of him, I say ‘HI!’
He smiles, and replies ‘Hey!’
What your name? I ask
Yilmaz, and you?
We talked and swam in the pool for about an hour, we went and played Water Polo, and later we were sitting by the pool chit chatting.
He told me that he really wanted to go up and talk to me, but he was very scared.
He was glad that I approached him, because since day 1 he’s been wanting to approach ME.
A few hours later, I was getting on the bus to leave the resort. We exchanged numbers, and kept chatting for a few years on-and off.
The reason I’m telling you this story is because you have to STOP THINKING, AND YOU JUST HAVE TO GO FOR IT!
The thoughts of ‘what if…’ ‘what will…’ ‘but if I…’ ‘What will they…’ are just self created blocks. They are the only thing standing in the way between you and something great.
I was questioning if I should go talk to him, yet this whole time he was thinking the exact same thing.
My only regret? That I waited till the last minute.
If I went and talked to him on day 1, 2, or 3, I would’ve had so much time to get to know him, play football, play water polo, and we both would’ve made a friend! Even thought I waited till the last minute, I’m still glad that I went for it.
Now, whenever I have the urge to do something, talk to someone, and I get scared — I think of this experience.
5 seconds. It’s all it takes.
Don’t think, and just go for it.
Stop holding yourself back.
Below: Me and Yilmaz playing water polo.