I don't know what I want to do with my life
When you’re 17, and in your last year of high-school, everyone keeps asking:
What do you want to do?
Who do you want to be?
You basically have to pick a major for life.
HOW IS THAT NOT STRESSFUL?! Having to know what you want to do for THE REST OF YOUR LIFE?!
I’m sorry, but I think it’s crazy that we expect 18 years old to know the answer to that question. You haven’t experienced life, you haven’t experienced ANYTHING, really. You’ve been in a safe environment, going to school, living with your parents, for 18 years, and NOW, NOOOOOW, with 0 experience out in the ‘real world’, without having the chance to taste all that life has to offer, you are expected to know what you want to do FOREVER?
The thing is… Even after you graduate college, that question might still linger around.
What if you just graduated from a 3 year BA Psychology program, and you realized that’s NOT what you want to do?
If you didn’t try it, you would’ve not known. It doesn’t make you a failure, and it doesn’t mean that you wasted your 3 years. You didn’t! You learned something regardless, you met wonderful people, and you got to know yourself more.
We’re made to believe that we have to have everything figured out — all the time. But the truth is… You shouldn’t be expected to know what you want to do or where you want to be in a year, 5 years, or 10 years!
The beauty of life is in the not knowing.
How boring would it be if you knew EXACTLY where you’re going to be in a few years? If you knew EXACTLY when you would achieve what you want to achieve? It wouldn’t be exciting whatsoever!! It’s like knowing the end of the movie, before the movie has even started.
(Can you imagine watching the movie Sixth sense, and 30 minutes in, your annoying friend spoils it for you and tells you EXACTLY how it’s going to end? Ugh!)
The same is for life. We’re scared of the unknown, yet if we knew everything that was bound to happen — it wouldn’t be exciting! (I’m telling you, if we knew how our lives would unfold, and we knew all that would happen, we would wish we didn’t!)
My point: Relax. Take it one day at a time, follow your curiosities, say yes to new experiences, try something you wouldn’t normally try, and see where life takes you.
This little memo is as much for me as it is for you.
I have no idea what life has in store for me, and sometimes it freaks me out. I feel a little lost and aim-less, but I keep reminding myself that it’s beautiful to simply not know.
You don’t create your life and then live it. You create it by living it.
Lots of Love,