Accepting where you are
Eckhart Tolle in his book “A New Earth” said:
Whatever you cannot enjoy doing, you can at least accept that this is what you have to do. Performing an action in the state of acceptance means you are at peace while you do it.
Before moving into my dream apartment this June, I was living in an apartment that was farrrr from my ‘dream.’
It was small, the radiator leaked, there wasn’t much light, and all I could think about was
”OH MY GOD I REALLY DON’T LIKE LIVING HERE, I CAN’T WAIT TO MOVE”
Before moving into the mentioned apartment, I KNEW I was only going to live there for 8 months. Also, before moving in, I wasn’t aware of all the faults of the apartment.
Anyways…. 2 months in I realized the apartment was far from perfect, and I had to wait till the middle of May before I could go and search for a new apartment.
So.. what did I do?
I complained about the apartment, I focused on all the faults of the apartment, I day dreamed of the day when I get to move out, and I made myself feel really frustrated, annoyed and unhappy.
Do you think complaining about the apartment helped me? Nope
Do you think thinking ‘I wish I was living somewhere else’ every time I got home was making me feel good? Naaah
Did I accept my situation and move on with my life with peace? Unfortunately.
Only AFTER I moved out of that apartment did I realize what a waste of time it was to complain about it and whine about it!
Let me tell you this: Now I live in a gorgeous, bright, spacious apartment and I couldn’t love it more. I got what I wanted. I’m happy. However, I wish I had accepted my old apartment when I was living there. I knew my situation was temporary, and I knew it was only going to be 8 months, yet I resisted, complained, and made it 100 times more difficult for myself.
Whether it’s a job that you don’t like
Co-workers that get on your nerves
A relationship that’s not serving you
An… apartment that is far from your desired one
Accept your current situation.
Make peace with it.
and then… start focusing and working towards what you do want.
Look for that new job whilst accepting your current one.
Stop focusing on your silly co-workers and just let them be. You don’t have to pay attention to them.
Accept the relationship for what it is and was, and if it’s the right decision — leave. (with love for yourself & the other person!)
Accept your current living situation, and then look for a new one
We loove making things hard for ourselves, yet, it doesn’t serve us. It doesn’t make things easier. It’s time that we accept where we are RIGHT NOW, and from this place of acceptance and peace, we take inspired action to change our situation.