How to let go: learning to surrender

I always talk about surrender and letting go.
How important it is to trust the Universe/God/Life/Spirit and let it guide you.

Resistance, or doing something by sheer force, never really works. It makes us feel exhausted, defeated and we start asking questions like:
’Why is this so hard? Why is life so hard?’

I love The Universe, and I know that it’s always guiding me. Where I am right now is where I’m meant to be. Everything that lead up to this point was perfectly orchestrated. I, myself, could’ve not planned everything so perfectly!

Having said that…
I constantly try to plan things perfectly.
I constantly try to control every single thing about my life.

I recently discovered that I get anxious about the future.
I’m so driven, goal-oriented, and a total over-achiever, that I’m constantly worrying about things like

What’s the next step?
What do I want to do for the rest of my life?
What is my purpose?

I’m hella grateful for where I am right now. I constantly have to remind myself that where I currently am and what I currently have is what I once wished for.

When I first moved to New York city, I used to dream about having my own apartment and living by myself. This goal seemed so far away, and so impossible (at the time), that I didn’t know how I’ll get there.

Well. here I am right now. In my fabulous apartment — living by myself. I love it. It’s the best.

However, I also realized that accomplishing your goals isn’t the answer.
Yes, being a personal trainer is nice. Yes, my apartment is incredible. Yes, New York is dope and I love living here,
However, to my sheer shock, I still deal with the big questions in life, old beliefs, and negative thoughts.

I try to control everything. From my daily schedule to keeping my apartment tidy to wanting to know where my life will go next.

Surrender is the key. Letting go and trusting The Universe is the key.

I know it.
I preach it.
I often forget to practice it.

So how do you let go?

Well, that’s a very easy — yet a very complex — question. There are different ways in which you can let go and surrender: Meditation, prayer, different spiritual practices, dancing, exercise, creating, being in nature.

Think of letting go as literally as possible. If you were holding onto a seed, clutching it in your hand with full force, yet you wanted that seed to turn into a flower — would that work?


You need to stop holding it in your hand and white knuckling the poor thing. Plant it. Let it be. Sunshine and rain will do all the growing.

Stop clutching onto your worries, desires. something that you really want or something that you really don’t want. Do whatever makes your soul and heart happy and get your focus off that thing that you this is so-oh important!

I found a little affirmation/prayer that Gabby Bernstein shared on her blog, and I wrote it down so I have it as a daily reminder. I wanted to share it with you too:

“Today I surrender my goals and plans to the care of the Universe. I offer up my agenda and accept spiritual guidance. I trust that there is a plan far greater than mine. I know that where there once was lack and limitation, there are spiritual solutions and creative ideas. I step back and let love lead the way.
Thy will be done.“

Do you struggle with surrender? Do you try to control everything? Do you worry about the future?
Let me know! Let’s talk about this. I’m looking forward to hearing your thoughts.

xo, G.

Read another article of mine about Surrender & Letting go HERE!